So I know some of you are not HERE yet in the stage of your journey that you are in, but I figure if you arent here yet, You will be.
Let's talk Chores!!
When I was pregnant with Toby I had an incredibly insightful nurse tell me something. Here is the Kari trying to remember version..
"Dont do it for him. When gracie is making her bed, he should be making his. When gracie is trying to dress herself then he should be learning how. Don't you clean up his toys for him. Don't let him off easy. Its the worst possible thing you can do for him."
Every time I see him struggle with his walker, holding a toy under his chin and dropping it 15xs, I want to run over grab it from him and put it and the other 10 toys on the shelf for him. Every time he insisted that he couldnt unbuckle his seatbelt I wanted to jump over him and push the little red button for him. Every time he got frustrated with his shirt and tried to put his head in the arm hole I wanted to grab it from him, throw it on and be done with it.
But I didnt.
And that my friend is my personal triumph!!
We have just recently started with chores in our family. (Of course after reading a great parenting book, "How to make your children mind without losing yours" By Dr Keven Leman.) I was really torn on Toby having a job and what kind of job he could have. I wanted him to be successful but I didnt want to sell him short. ie "Hooray!! You picked up one piece of paper and threw it away!!" So Toby's job is loading the dishwasher after dinner. It takes forever and I have to help him a little, but we throw all the rinsed dishes in a big bowl, open the dishwasher and let him go at it. You know the funny thing is?? He wanted to do another chore after he was done!! I didnt tell him he was good or anything like that. I just told him, "Thank you for helping me, You made it better for mommy by helping clean the kitchen." He totally felt like he was contributing to the family. (which is the whole point)
Anway, this post is to encourage you all to find a chore that your child can do either now or in the future. Because it really has helped. Its great to see him "help" with something instead of always being helped.
Its encouraging all the way around. So I hope this post encourages you. As that nurse told me almost 5 years ago. "Don't let him off easy." They really can do so much!!
So, for you guys with older kids....What chores do you have your child doing? Id love more ideas.